This can be a tough one for me, and I think for many who consider themselves to be Healers and/or Helpers.
*Thought I’d add a little Halloween fun to this one*
As we move into the holiday season, and as Christmas stuff and fluff starts to pop up everywhere (already), I think it’s important that this little reminder is revisited.
Do not try to be everything for everyone this season.
Do not push yourself into a breakdown trying to appease others, no matter who they are.
Do not feel guilty for saying “no” if it is to take care of yourself. Most of us know our internal signs of being spread too thin, so when you start to see them, that’s your cue to cut some of the chaos back.
Do feel free to walk away if someone is not hearing your request for peace. I’ve had to do this a lot in the last few years, and I’m doing it now. If you respectfully state why you can’t invest time, money, or energy into something, and they ignore that request, then your feelings in the matter are not important enough to them. Seek out those who respect your desire for balance.
Do give yourself the all-important “me time.” Even if it’s a few blocks worth of a walk, 2 minutes in the car, or a 5 minute cup of coffee in silence, carve it out. Those little moments add up.
Do what you can and/or must to show yourself some love. All of the other statements above roll right back into this: love yourself.