Manifestation Season

The holiday season is often a time filled with polar extremes: joy and stress, family and loneliness, abundance and want, etc. We are so busy running around trying to be full of good cheer and simultaneously good consumers that we tend to forget that this is a perfect time to work our manifestation muscles.

It makes sense, to be honest. It is the end of the calendar year, a time when many of us look back on the previous year and think about what we have (or have not) accomplished. Are we at the same place we were last year at this time? Has our life improved? Did things get worse? Did the entire year just leave you feeling…”meh?” In turn, we start thinking about next year as well: Will next year be better? Will I finally write that book? Start that business? Finish my degree? Find that tool kit that’s been missing since 2016?

I have spoken a lot in previous posts about vision boards. I may be a tad obsessed with them, actually…but it is because they are such great vehicles of manifestation power! No, I am not twisting your arm into doing one…but I really think you should do one, in the next 30 days.

Rarely in the year are our minds this focused on what we have done and what we want to do. It is the reason why New Year’s Resolutions are made. We want to do better going forward, we really do. It’s just that life comes in and sidetracks us, right? Well, yes, but having a constant reminder of your goals and visions for the next year can really help keep you focused.

Here’s another interesting side effect of physical tools such as vision boards or wish boards: you begin to see and take opportunities you may have ignored without the routine visual reminders. We tend to focus on what we see/experience the most. So when we put a list of cities on our board that we want to visit during the year (like I did), as we keep looking at the list, we start also unconsciously looking for opportunities to take those journeys. Of my list of 5 cities, I got to all but one of them this year. As a bonus, I visited (and am about to visit) two that weren’t even on the list! During one of my leanest years in terms of finances, I managed to visit at least 6 different cities in different parts of the country. I even got to do it via cross-country road trip, which checked off a bucket list item!

Therein lies a final bonus tip when it comes to manifestation: Don’t worry about or focus on how it will happen. Make the board, place it somewhere you can see it every day, trust the process, and then watch the magic happen. 🙂

 

Parents, We Need You.

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First, yes, it’s been awhile. A lot has been going on over here, including some big decisions that will probably be announced in the June site update.

A recent situation has caused me to take a hard look at the idea of “parent buy-in.” It’s a bit of a buzzword/concept in my field, and it centers around the goal of getting the family invested in our therapy work. Too often, I see parents who simply hand their child/children off to the therapist/interventionist/specialist and basically say, “Here, fix them.”

The truth, parents and guardians, is that we cannot “fix” your child. First of all, many of us don’t really like the idea of “fixing” anyone. It implies that the individual is broken, inferior, or not up to some invisible set of societal standards. Second, we are in your home/community or you are in our office a few hours a week.

In order for your son or daughter to become the best that they can be, they need YOU.

In order for us to be able to find those sparks in your son or daughter, we need YOU.

I always try to tell families at the very beginning that this is a team effort, and everyone must be invested in it. The clients I worked with who blossomed the most were the ones who had the support and follow-through from their parents/guardians, their siblings, and even extended family. The families who were sponges, hungry for information, skills, and concrete examples…these were the cases that led to more fulfilled lives. No, the child didn’t get “fixed.” The child got love and acceptance, and that made them work at becoming more confident, loving, and ready. All children want to receive acceptance and praise from their parents/loved ones, I truly believe that.

When the families meet us at the table, ready to make the world of their family unit a better place, amazing things happen. I’ve seen it over and over again.

I have a saying when meeting families: “My end goal is to essentially be fired because you don’t need me anymore.” I don’t want your family to become dependent on me or my team. I want you to apply learned skills and build relationship bonds so that you don’t need my “expertise” anymore.

Us professionals want to see the child AND the family unit flourish and thrive independent of any services or interventions.

This needs to be everyone’s goal.

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