Good read about the first openly autistic person to practice law in my home state of Florida. The message of inclusion is so strong here; find a person’s strengths, encourage them, and watch them shine. 🙂
The holiday season is often a time filled with polar extremes: joy and stress, family and loneliness, abundance and want, etc. We are so busy running around trying to be full of good cheer and simultaneously good consumers that we tend to forget that this is a perfect time to work our manifestation muscles.
It makes sense, to be honest. It is the end of the calendar year, a time when many of us look back on the previous year and think about what we have (or have not) accomplished. Are we at the same place we were last year at this time? Has our life improved? Did things get worse? Did the entire year just leave you feeling…”meh?” In turn, we start thinking about next year as well: Will next year be better? Will I finally write that book? Start that business? Finish my degree? Find that tool kit that’s been missing since 2016?
I have spoken a lot in previous posts about vision boards. I may be a tad obsessed with them, actually…but it is because they are such great vehicles of manifestation power! No, I am not twisting your arm into doing one…but I really think you should do one, in the next 30 days.
Rarely in the year are our minds this focused on what we have done and what we want to do. It is the reason why New Year’s Resolutions are made. We want to do better going forward, we really do. It’s just that life comes in and sidetracks us, right? Well, yes, but having a constant reminder of your goals and visions for the next year can really help keep you focused.
Here’s another interesting side effect of physical tools such as vision boards or wish boards: you begin to see and take opportunities you may have ignored without the routine visual reminders. We tend to focus on what we see/experience the most. So when we put a list of cities on our board that we want to visit during the year (like I did), as we keep looking at the list, we start also unconsciously looking for opportunities to take those journeys. Of my list of 5 cities, I got to all but one of them this year. As a bonus, I visited (and am about to visit) two that weren’t even on the list! During one of my leanest years in terms of finances, I managed to visit at least 6 different cities in different parts of the country. I even got to do it via cross-country road trip, which checked off a bucket list item!
Therein lies a final bonus tip when it comes to manifestation: Don’t worry about or focus on how it will happen. Make the board, place it somewhere you can see it every day, trust the process, and then watch the magic happen. 🙂
This can be a tough one for me, and I think for many who consider themselves to be Healers and/or Helpers.
*Thought I’d add a little Halloween fun to this one*
As we move into the holiday season, and as Christmas stuff and fluff starts to pop up everywhere (already), I think it’s important that this little reminder is revisited.
Do not try to be everything for everyone this season.
Do not push yourself into a breakdown trying to appease others, no matter who they are.
Do not feel guilty for saying “no” if it is to take care of yourself. Most of us know our internal signs of being spread too thin, so when you start to see them, that’s your cue to cut some of the chaos back.
Do feel free to walk away if someone is not hearing your request for peace. I’ve had to do this a lot in the last few years, and I’m doing it now. If you respectfully state why you can’t invest time, money, or energy into something, and they ignore that request, then your feelings in the matter are not important enough to them. Seek out those who respect your desire for balance.
Do give yourself the all-important “me time.” Even if it’s a few blocks worth of a walk, 2 minutes in the car, or a 5 minute cup of coffee in silence, carve it out. Those little moments add up.
Do what you can and/or must to show yourself some love. All of the other statements above roll right back into this: love yourself.
I really love the work that the UC Davis MIND Institute is doing with regards to conditions such as autism and ADHD. This newest bit of news could help identify a certain subset of autism much faster. According to the article, it would probably only identify about 17% of children on the spectrum for now. This could, however, lead to specialized diagnostic tools and interventions that could benefit everyone further down the line.
Here’s a link to the article, and definitely check out the rest of their site. The MIND Institute is always looking for research participants, and has regularly updated information on their findings.
The past few weeks have been nothing short of a roller coaster for me, but it inspired this post, so…that’s a plus!
Sometimes the Universe will give you lessons in fairly easy or straight-forward ways. Maybe you’ll see someone else go through a hard time and learn from watching their experience. Perhaps a movie, song, or book will lead to a great, life-changing “a-ha” moment for you.
And then sometimes the Universe will just snatch the rug out from under you, throw you in the ocean, or set you on fire and go, “Okay, make it out of that!”
Both approaches get you to (hopefully) the end goal of learning something important about yourself, your life, and/or the world around you. The second set of circumstances, though, often feel unfair when you’re going through it.
“God, there’s an easier way to show me this, isn’t there?”
“Geez, Universe, really? This is what we’re doing now?”
“What did I do wrong, because I must’ve screwed up somewhere to get into this mess.”
Truth is, glass is tempered and shaped in fire. Tripping causes you to use your reflexes to protect yourself, reflexes you might have forgotten about. Being surrounded by water forces you to swim or tread. It’s a daunting task, but wow, do you feel accomplished once you emerge out of it! Even if everything is not 100% perfect yet on the other side, you came out of the fire much stronger than when you went in.
Sometimes it does take a so-called Trial By Fire in order to grow stronger. We need our Dark Night of the Soul because it often forces us to stop, to humble ourselves, and to listen because that is all we can do.
Sometimes, we need to stop.
If we don’t stop, best believe that eventually, the Universe will do it for us. Bluntly.
Still, even in those dark moments, remember that it is a learning cycle. The wheel will turn, and momentum will build again. You will get through this, and you will emerge stronger, more aware, and more in love with life itself than you were before.
You. Will. Get. Through. This.
I really like this graphic that a friend of mine posted about accommodations for adults on the autism spectrum in the workplace. I also realize that not all of these can be logically met by every company, but having worked myself in conditions ranging from “interesting” to “Spirit, help me,” I think a lot of these could benefit a wide range of employees.
I, for one, am NOT a fan of florescent lights…ugh.
This graphic is brought to you by the Autism Women’s Network.
Also, check out my Autism page, which just got its August update!
On Saturday, I had a chance to do a “paint and sip” afternoon. I wasn’t even going to go at first, but was talked into it by a childhood friend of mine. The experience gave me an interesting look at creativity, our self-identity, and how willing we are to deviate from societal norms.
For these events, we are usually given a beginning sketch, and then are walked through how to essentially duplicate the picture. It’s a genius idea, because the steps are explained in such a way where you would have to really try to mess it up. It’s nearly fool proof. This picture, titled “Golden Goddess,” featured a black woman’s facial outline and shoulder. Everything else would have to be painted in.
I started deviating a bit from the start. I mixed the colors for the skin tone a bit differently, and I decided that I wasn’t going to give her a curly afro like the example because I wanted her to look more like me. I also wasn’t going to be too crazy with her makeup because, again, that wasn’t me. I found myself wishing that I had blue instead of green paint so that I could make purple and really let loose on the color scheme.
Strangely enough, it never crossed my mind to ask for blue paint.
I knew what elements I wanted to add to the painting, but I didn’t because I didn’t feel that I had the resources or access to them…even though there was plenty of blue paint on one of the counters at the front of the room. I didn’t think to ask and instead just sat, wishing.
While in the midst of this mini-crisis, I starting looking at the others’ paintings. Most were following the instructions to the letter. Then I saw one woman who had clearly decided to go a different route. Her finished goddess ended up with pinkish-red bushy hair, a green top instead of a red one, and roses around her instead of circles. It looked awesome.
My finished goddess looked like a halfway point between the example and whatever I wanted. I love her, but I know that she can be more.
I then started looking at more pictures from the business of other painting parties. I was genuinely curious at how few people tried to deviate from the presenting pictures. There were several where I thought, “Oh, I would’ve added these colors, maybe changed that background into this.” When it came to the painting of a black woman, though, I saw the highest number of deviations to have the subject look more like the painter. So why didn’t I see such deviation with the landscape or object painting classes?
No, I’m not answering or looking to answer that question. This is more simply food for thought. How willing are you to paint outside the lines? Do you prefer to follow the norms, or pivot a little? How much do you pivot? How does art help one deviate a bit more than usual? If you know what you want to create, how willing are you to pursue it?
Monday motivation, indeed.